Quote Originally Posted by mfakley View Post
You know it sounds less like the problem is that your Ex was a crossdresser, and more that he was a self-absorbed a-hole ... the two things do not necessarily go hand in hand. From what you're saying, it sounds to me that you just weren't important to him ... so if he was super into sports, or cars, or guns or something more typical like that, would he not have ignored you for those things instead of the dressing?
Yes he did and I do not in anyway blame the crossdressing. He was into more then I ever knew. Some of which I wish he would have shared. Some of the things he was doing I have been able to try and really enjoyed. Oh well.. I am now making sure that if I get into a relationship the lines of communication is open and honest. For him, I know his needs, desires and wants were more important then me. I realize now that this had nothing to do with me. It's just been on my mind for the past couple of days.

We have been apart for a while now. I have had many obsticles thrown at me in the past 2 years including fighting late stage ovarian cancer. Yes, I fought it and kicked butt. I know that there is no cure and will have future surgeries and additional chemo and at some point radiation but I am moving forward much happier about who I am.

But, this has been on my mind since I found everything and knew no where else to post . I knew those here might understand.