I agree with this statement 99%. Yes in most public places, if you own it, you will be fine. Even if you're clocked most people don't care, and most likely you aren't getting clocked.Originally Posted by Wildaboutheels
I disagree with this statement 1%. When someone is assaulted or murdered because they're read as being transgender, or someone loses their job or S.O. or family or friends because they're transgender, there is real transphobia out there.
It is tempting to assume that everything bad that happens to us is transphobia. Much of it is just part of being a woman, and the loss of male privileges, as well as corporate USA, people who just like to be jerks, and life in general.
It can be difficult to separate what is truly transphobia from what we perceive to be transphobia.
Much of the double standard in women being allowed to wear male attire, but men not being allowed to wear female attire, is due to the fact that most men see embracing anything feminine as a "downgrade", while most women view embracing anything masculine as no big deal - neither an upgrade or a downgrade.
Society views women wearing male clothing as an upgrade, but men wearing female clothing as a downgrade. The problem I have with this idea is that society generally accepts downgrades more than upgrades. It is way easier for a rich person to be downgraded to a poor person than for a poor person to be upgraded to a rich person. It is more acceptable for a rich person to be stingy, than it is for a poor person to spend money they don't have.
Society, and people, like to keep everyone in their place, because they're afraid of change.
Many people won't accept change unless it's forced on them. Life has a way of forcing change on you whether you're ready or not.
