Told the wife via letter, and here's what happened

[ashley_addams76]

glad it worked out for you.

[Laura28]

Great story, so glad it worked out for you. I am Blessed my wife knows and accepts.

[Shara]

Congrats on the way that worked out for you. Love stories with happy endings. Hugs Shara

[nataliebynight]

Rather than have her find my girly clothes, or finding Marsha all dressed up when she came home, I wrote her my own long letter. As emotionally charged as CDing is, it was the most neutral way I could think of. I spilled my guts, as we used to say. The next step was DADT, but she appreciated that I wasn't being deceptive. I am blessed.

Lot's of good advice here. Particularly the 'be careful not everyone reacts the same way'. Deception is never good in marriage. You've got to be able to trust each other. Personally, I like the option of writing the letter, cleaning it up to the point you have your thoughts exactly as you want to express them, then sit down together and "talk"...your script being the letter you wrote. You allowing your spouse to stop you. Stop you so they can catch their breath. Stop you to ask questions. Stop you to cry (or vomit or whatever). Will it work? Will the marriage stay together? Don't know. However, I think you have a better chance with honesty than with deception. Just my 2 cents.

[AmyGaleRT]

I'm glad it worked out for you, Jennifer, and I hope it develops into the kind of loving acceptance that truly makes a girl blossom!

It's now been a year and a half or so since I opened up to my fiancee (or, the way she tells it, "since she dragged it out of me" ). In that time, I have gone from totally closeted and convinced I would never set foot outside, to being a true "woman of the world" and a respected member of the local trans community. I am Amy not merely by my own will but by gift of my fiancee, and not merely through her but by gift of my sisters, and made all the richer thereby.

- Amy

[Bunty]

So after reading the letter, she came downstairs, gave me a big hug, told me she loved me, and that was that!

Lovely!

[lpjamey]

Since reading your post on it's first day I have been working on my own letter and I'm getting closer to being done .I have tried to talk with her but keep tripping over my tongue! I hope this works or I could be homeless...

[alwayshave]

OK, I admit that I came out to my fiancee, six years ago, by sending her a self destructing email. Meaning, I wanted to tell he that I was a crossdresser, but I did not want her to ever be able to forward the email to any one else or print it out. Yes, a little paranoid, but my business breeds paranoia. I'm not sure that she was that shocked as she new I wore panties. She is very supportive and even encouraging.

[chloecd1305]

Wonderful story and wonderful outcome. I hope someday to be able to have the same