I really have no idea where the LGBT-friendly places are. I don't even know for sure if there are any in this area.
I had shaved with both my electric shaver (getting old) and a Venus razor. I felt my face both there and after that incident at the restaurant. It felt smooth. I usually wear the most basic amount of makeup (don't know what to wear, what goes with what, etc.). So, I had only some bright red lipstick on. Normally, I use some concealer and maybe some mascara, but my concealer is gone and I'm not sure what happened to my mascara (not that I can put it on effectively anyhow).
My shortest pair of heels were 4" pairs. I walked around the mall once in them. Normally, all I do outside en femme is go to a restaurant and maybe a movie theater, so my heels are fine. I totally agree. I was one of those guys that was like a cat with catnip. Anytime I heard a woman walking in heels, I stopped what I was doing and just about lost my train of thought. Now, it is so interesting walking down the driveway, hearing that sound from my own feet! I love it.