I'm in the minority here (as always, lol) and don't really understand how it wouldn't change how I see you. I mean, let's be real - it's not just clothing, is it. It's the entire presentation of a woman and regardless of whether my H is still just behaving like himself, he looks disturbingly different and the completely wrong gender to what I married. So yes, it has literally affected how see him. When he crossdresses he doesn't look like a man I'm attracted to and I'd have to be blind not to be affected by this, surely?!
Do I still respect him? Yes. I don't feel the two are linked. I am not as attracted to him after seeing the femme version, but I still respect him as my H and best friend. Given the job you do Isha, I would find it easy to respect a man like you, too. You are the epitome of courage and selflessness, no matter what you're wearing. I wouldn't be attracted to you as Isha though, and I'd struggle not to have this permeate all areas of the relationship.
I do have to ask though, if no one here wants be seen as a woman, why do you crossdress? It seems like an awful lot of effort to still be seen as a man. Am I missing something?
