Which is better?
1) Your friends and family never know you cross dress, but you know (or suspect) that were they to know they would immediately disown you.
2) Your friends and family discover (or are told) and they immediately disown you.
For the first part of my life I chose #1 and it worked, for the most part. At some point, however, I began to resent people in my life for an offense they had yet to actually commit. And then a funny thing happened: people did find out and is was OK. Sure, I lost some, but they were a tiny minority in number. Over the years I've wondered if the genie could be put back back in the bottle and we could go back to DADT would I be happy? For me the answer is, "No". How about everyone else?
