This is soooooo old a discussion. But that said, current society, no matter how advanced we think it is, does not appear to be ready to accept the notion of the heterosexual crossdresser. It is society which has sensually and blindly dumped that pile of fabulous scents, colours, textures and behaviors in the "female" box and the rawhide, boring clothes and stupid scents in the male box.
How about this: That gender and sexuality has nothing to do at all with those choices?
Just because I like my eyes smoky with a fire alarm red colour matte on my lips does not make me personally want to be with men, in fact it's quite the opposite.