I have read through all the threads and wonder what my husband thinks of my support? I like to think I'm trying on the outside it looks like I support it (I have helped him buy things and have said he can do what he needs as far a dressing but limits are no kids (his limit) and not in the bedroom(my limit) but inside I'm still completely confused and just don't get it! I wished I could understand the need of this. I am not sure how I feel about him wanting to go out in public - that scares the HECK out of me and I would NEVER want him to do it ANYWHERE around where we live (we'd need to travel 5 plus hours to be sure - we live rural and even the next towns over we all know one another and the larger ones everyone travels to when they want to get away, you always see people we know there)
In a few of the posts I hear my wife loves her new girlfriend? I know I don't want that - I can't look at him(not litteraly but figuratively) with a different persona. I married a man and I want to spend time with him and I don't mind the new him - I do like some of the changes in him - like us being able to talk about anything, him being more emotional and touchy feely with me, and I love that he trusts me with something so personal. We were talking the other day - there was a time when we BOTH said out loud that we had wished "he had never said anything to me" but now we both agree that we are in a much better place now and we both feel we love eachother more because of having to work through this so (even though I struggle with the clothing aspect) I do love him more - I just don't want that male (bit of a Neanderthol) to go away all together because if we are being complete honest - he turns me on! Sorry TMI!?!
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