I read a study a while back that said the brain generally accepts what the eye sees.
I'm not sure what you mean by busted. Nobody is going to run up and accuse you of being a crossdresser. I suspect that many people recognize a crossdresser, and just say nothing. Nobody is going to approach you and say "This is Fred from accounting in a dress". They don't know if you are really a man, or someone in the process of transitioning, or just an unattractive fem.
