Hi Katey, I identify male in every way. Gender, sexuality, whatever, there is only one, me. A male me, both between my legs and between my ears. I am beginning to think I may be unique.Originally Posted by Katey888
...Jennifer - Aren't you confusing and mixing gender identity with sexual identity? Your sexual identity is physically fixed, as for most of us - but your gender identity is not just (or even) your physical form; it is what goes on in your persona and is about who you are.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but you struggled with an internal conflict regarding your dressing for many years until you just had to come out your SO and you also had a real need to take your feminine side out into public... if that isn't a sign of even mild gender dysphoria, then I don't know how else you'd explain it?
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Now, regarding the conflict prior to telling my wife, none of it was gender related. It was deceit, shame, embarrassment, etc., related associated with having to admit I was a cross dresser. That even though I was a dude, through and through, she would see me as less of a man. I'm happy to state that has not been the outcome. Going out in girl mode, as I have written many times, is like a public admission of this long held secret. Screaming from the mountaintop, metaphorically, without saying a word. After decades of hiding, the need to not hide was paramount. Cross dressing is not a symptom to me. One may be dysphoric AND cross dress and others are not but also cross dress. It's not cause and effect. Just like there are gay cross dressers but cross dressing does not make you gay. Again, I am feeling unique.
