Look, the whole idea of this blog is to lend a helping hand to one another by offering advice from people who have “been there, done that”.
I’d have to say that 100% of the problems with SO’s has been because the CD wasn’t up-front and honest about the “CD thing” from the start.
Sure, we’ve all made mistakes and this is my short story.
I put an ad in “LOVE AOL” and said, among other things, that I was a CD and that I liked dressing because it was how I “relaxed”.
I have never desired to “transition”. Being a CD is plenty enough for me.
I dated a number of girls for two years until I found a possible match. We met for food on a weekday and she said that she didn’t know if she could handle the “CD thing” but she invited me over to her apartment that Saturday for me to dress for her.
I dressed in the bathroom and when I came out I think her first words were, "You’ve put too much rouge on, let me fix that for you”.
We’ve been married almost twenty years.
When she wants me to dress, she’ll just say, “Get dressed”, and I’ll go into the second bedroom where she’ll have laid-out whatever it is she wants me to wear. She says that she’d rather be looking at a nice looking lady than “a man in a dress”, so she’s in charge of my makeup, hair, shoes and, sometimes, she’ll even pick-out the bra she wants me to wear.
She does such a good job on me that I “pass” and we go out as two girls who are best of friends.
You’re making a mountain out of a mole hill. It really isn’t complicated at all.
Forget the therapist: save your money.
The name of the game is to
HAVE FUN BEING A CD!
Do it, we do.
ps; good advice from BLUE ORCHID, by the way.
