Guess I need to vent...

[Stephanie Morgan]

I have to say I completely understand the OP's feeling of angst over presenting "en femme" with facial hair. Whenever I dress as Stephanie, I have to shave completely or it just does not feel right. As for the relationship with the girlfriend, I wish I could say something to help. Everyone has to determine their own path and what will or will not work for them. I do applaud the OP for deciding to not take the relationship to the next level until these issues are resolved with the girlfriend. I wish you the best on your journey and hope it is a happy one.

PS...Like so many others have said, if you cannot vent anywhere else, you can always come here. Its one of the reasons I love this place!!

Hugs
Stephanie M.

[Elisa Lace]

Elisa,
You bring up an issue that is too common to just leave sitting.

Your GF claims she loves you, yet she can't accept something so important that it's tearing you apart, sending you for "A couple bourbon glasses".

Suppose you were transsexual, would she stop loving you? If that were true, did she ever actually love YOU, or just an image you created.

You language also sounds a bit like domestic abuse. You're a psychologist, you know the pattern. The perp finds ways to tear away the victim's self esteem, pushing them to feel shame, guilt, fear, and that they are unworthy. Then they can take control of the victim, force them to do things that make them even feel even more guilt, shame, and fear.

Thanks for your reply Debbie, but that line of thought seems to be somewhat extreme (maybe the bourbon phrase just gave my first post a much negative feeling than how it really was). The point is that I know for a fact she does love me, but there IS after all a big boulder between her and myself. As far as I'm concerned, she IS trying to cope with it even if that means for her to be all restrictive in some aspects which relate to my crossdressing. She could perfectly be a jealous person, or an unking b*tch, but she's caring in everything BUT this aspect of myself which implies a big piece of beef to digest.

Guess what I want to say is that, while I AM struggling with the expression of my feminine side, I do so so she can somehow be able to manage her own struggle as well. She probably is asking herself if she can find someone who isn't a "perverted/mentally ill" dude as I'm asking myself if there is a girl who will enjoy applying makeup to her man. I could probably just walk away and dismiss her for not being able to deal with my problems, but what about her problems?

I think we crossdressers may *sometimes* fall into this "she should love me the way I am" and we end up being kinda self centered on ourselves and our struggle in the way a teenage kid would do... Kinda the way our feminine self grows from wearing 10 inch high stilettos to get to a point in which flats fit just fine, we also have to deal with this teenage girl inside of us and her hormone induced tantrums.

I do appreciate your thoughts though Debbie

Thanks again girls for your views, insights and support! It's really appreciated and it definitely helped me getting over this little "teenage crisis".