I don't know how often you dress Steffi, but I agree with Jennifer that learning to limit your time dressed is not the worst thing you can do. Not if you want to remain in this marriage, which I gather you do. You will be told here that it's a shame your wife isn't more supportive and would just let you do what you want, but that can also flip the other way and she could also have a more involved partner who doesn't need a second life to feel fulfilled. There are always two sides and you're just doing the best you can to make this work. Remember, it sucks for you both.
Give it time. Stick to the boundaries. Show her she's more important. Then have another talk in a few months and maybe she will afford Steffi some more time. Good luck.
(Staying off this forum isn't the worst thing a person could do either...note to self, lol.)
