Reine, it's absolutely the sexual dressers who many disgruntled wives are married to. I am married to one myself and I have a collection of wife friends who commiserate together about this thing we share. It's sure not easy sharing your H with the fantasy woman inside him. It's a surreal situation to find yourself in so it's no wonder so many wives are not pro crossdressing! It's like letting his mistress live in the house, only she's really ugly and turns your H into a horny, high, mirror-loving prostitute!
It's not all bad though if you work things out and my H and I have found our balance now. But for those who haven't yet found balance, the wives don't live with calmer, gentler men expressing an inner self like so many here. They live with great highs and angry lows and obsession and porn and the feeling of being worshipped and used, all in the same moment. It's tough marrying a man with a different sexuality as you're always either with it or competing against it. Until you decide not to anymore, and only then can the two of you figure out a compromise.
But yeah, I wouldn't want anything to do with my sons sexual crossdressing as my MIL doesn't of my H's, understandably. Again....eeeewwwww!