In most cases not only in our situation, it's best to not respond to any crticism or snide remarks. But sometimes I will.
I have a friend in the guy circle who can't seem to get enough of making homophobic gay put-downs. He's made me a target of his jokes.. I've told my other friends that it has become sickening and old and he has backed off. Now and then I'll just roll my eyes and ask him why he's so pre-occupoied with the subject. I don't think he knows about me.
There was a time he'd send emails and pictures of a gay nature. More than once I'd ask him in front of the others why he has such a big collection of gay porno in his files. I even said that I questioned his sexuality because he gets so many jollies from it. I'm not alone. He's badgered others, two who quit their jobs because of it.
Many times I ask if he's trying to tell us something, and I'll say it front of the others. It all works for me.
Cheryl
