Results of a family counseling session RE my dressing:
My ex asked if I would attend a session with an experienced therapist while we were all out of town for a family Xmas get together this week. Me, my ex and 2 daughters also agreed to attend. While most of the time was taken up by my ex trying to get support for her wildly unrealistic, money squandering live style, (She didn't get any sympathy from our counselor), I thot the therapist's take on my CDing mite be interesting to others here.
For those not familiar with me, let me give u some background:
No one knows I dress except for my ex and 2 daughters. I live with my younger, 20 y/o daughter. Who does not approve of my "hobby".
My older girl lives out of state and has no problems with it.
My ex, rather than telling everyone what I do out of spite, tells no one and is paranoid that haters will find me and my daughter thru a reality Dolls video that featured Sherry and has been shown on TV around the world and my continuing attendance at CD events.
The conversation with the female counselor who had no prior info on any of us was quite revealing. She asked everyone their feelings about my dressing. Then, whether I was willing to, or planned to, cut back or stop dressing. When I answered, "No", that it seemed to be a compulsion, she said the following.
Since he is not willing to, or wants to stop dressing, he won't and u shouldn't expect him to. For those of u not directly involved? It doesn't affect u so just don't worry about it. To my 20 y/o daughter she said, "If this bothers u so much u can't even talk about it? You're an adult. Move out into your own place where u won't have to see it and he won't have to tip toe around cautiously in his own house."
She never once indicated that my dressing was wrong, dangerous, or mite negatively effect any of them. Simply that it was a compulsion. And, they had either best get used to my doing it or stay away if it bothered them. Period!
For those of u worried about seeing a counselor I'm hoping this will encourage u. Mind u, this was a educated, licensed woman therapist with many years of family counseling experience.
Note: My daughter admitted that moving out would be a bigger hardship to her than my dressing is a bother, at present. :brolleyes:
