Question from a GG

[Lisa9099]

Isha - how would your wife feel if she read another woman writing this about you, particularly that first line?



Especially if the friendship with the woman writing it came as a surprise to her as well?

Of course your relationship isn't DADT - so there's an expectation of disclosure that's absent in a DADT situation. And I think that's the trouble in such a relationship - at what point DO you disclose something?

I can answer part of this for you. The fact that he's 20 years my senior is just a fact and it's not like I'm 25 years old either - I'm a mature woman. The part about him being very generous - it's just a truth. He appears to be generous with everyone in his life. I try to be the same way. When we originally met and he bought items from me, I gave him quite a few more than he originally purchased because I couldn't believe someone would pay that much. I also did that on his second order. This was before we even spoke, so the generosity actually started with me. Once we got to know each other better, I think he realized that he's in a far, far better financial situation than I am in and at Christmas time, he gave me a generous gift. I am single and wasn't able to have children. Do you know how many other Christmas presents I received? Zilch, zero, not one! I actually cried when I saw that he sent me something. It was the sweetest gesture. I sent him his favorite panties because that's what I know he likes and that's what I had that I could give him - he doesn't have a need/want for anything else. Even those, he can buy for himself. I just didn't want to not send him anything. I also told him that he doesn't need to buy me or give me anything at all.

That being said, I asked him last night if he thought we'd ever meet. His answer was, "who knows?". That answer made me smile because I realized that we are both in the same boat. What happens between us? Who knows? Life will happen.

I find myself falling quickly and I think he is smitten. Yeah, I do I kind of like the guy - I do. From what I know of him, he's everything I'd want in a husband, lover, friend, brother or father. I think he thinks I'm pretty special too. Does it mean he will leave his wife and life behind? I don't really think so and I'm okay with that. I've had opportunities to be with married men in the past and I've never done that before - it's not something that I'd want, but with him - I'm just going to let life happen.