I wouldn't say we complained Lori. I think we just are acknowledging that there is some intolerance and judgment from that end of things. I've been to gay clubs, and openly sensed and heard resentment for my presence there. I've had drag queens repeatedly diminish me, or judge me. I've been called CIS, or a CIS wannabe before by transgender ladies I know. I'm sure they meant no harm, but knowing I'm further along the spectrum than simply a CD, that sort of thing stings a little. When people you think of as peers or equals say something with disdain that is disparaging or diminishing, it leaves a mark. I've never understood how any group, that seeks understanding and acceptance, can be as judgmental.
Certainly, "We must hang together of we shall certainly hang separately," sounds all nice and motivating, in the end, it should go in both directions. I've no issue with, pardon the expression, "being lumped in" with them. But because of certain treatments, some Transgender, or others along the spectrum do not feel we are equally respected. I do agree, we all accomplish more, if we work together. But often it feels like we are the red-headed step-child (no offense to gingers), or the dirty little secret they wish they could do without.
I wish I had a solution. I wish it were as simple as forming CD only clubs or organizations. That might work for a very small minority of heterosexual only crossdressers or others along the gender spectrum. But I've seen CD only groups or clubs/bars devolve quickly, because of membership within that were gay/bi/lesbian. It's impossible to mutually exclude any group from the LGBT designation, because of the levels of intersection that exist between them all. And when you get down to it, is it even fair to the multitude of people within, that would be affected by such? Hardly a practical move at all. An easier solution would be to remind all "members" of the community that acceptance and tolerance, should start at home. We cannot expect others if we disparage any member within our grouping.
