Miss Melissa (#28) I agree. My thoughts and fantasies are mine, and if I draw upon them to enhance the sexual experience between me and my wife, it's good and who's to know? My wife may be fantasizing about Brad Pitt, but who's to know?
My dressing is very compartmentalized. I'm all in when I'm dressed, all out when I'm not. I'm a guy who likes to dress up occasionally, and as ultra-femme as possible. No aspect of my CDing carries over to my guy life - no underdressing, no androgyny. I can't control my wife's perception, but I can control what clues I give, or don't give:
"Thinking about those six inch high heels sent me over the top. Great sex, honey."
"Yes it was, Brad."
