Originally Posted by
ReineD
...but generally the visual cues of a man wearing women's things are less of a turn-off factor (by themselves) than the wife's perception of her husband's motives for the CDing.... Is she the main focus of his sexual desires as he is for her, or is he instead getting off on the idea that he is a woman in bed? This last point, I believe, is the most important and the hardest for any partner to accept no matter what 3rd entity/condition/object is taking up sexual energy from the other partner, even if it isn't the CDing. It could be anything that one partner is into and the other is not. Porn is a good example of this. A wife will be miserable if her husband sources more sexual excitement out of porn than from his wife. But, if they both enjoy it moderately together (if his main attraction is the wife), it can be icing on the cake.
By hetero, I mean a man and woman who are sexually attracted to each other, not a woman who is attracted to a man, who in turn is attracted to the CDing even if he can still have sex with his wife.
