I absolutely understand that some situations are different, for sure. For me, especially if it is known prior to entering relationship that you are a CDer, this is the time to 'test' the waters and not necessarily tell too soon, but understand whether or not your potential partner is open minded to theses types of things. Again, simply my opinion.
I 1000000% agree that some SOs need to start being critical of themselves. No doubt!! I will be the first to admit that I hear and read things from GGs that make me say 'WHAT THE HECK IS WRONG WITH YOU?!' I have strong opinions about the way that GGs try to limit or deny CD time and stuff. In my opinion physics come into play here, for every action, equal but opposite reaction. By this I mean if I were to deny it linit my husband's dressing, shame him for it or be negative about it, I should not be surprised when he withdraws, doesn't talk to me, starts sleeping in another room, going out at night or dozens of other things I have seen complaints about.
I have a somewhat unique view I guess in that I see from both sides and am critical of both sides.
If I had a friend confide in me that her husband dresses and started complaining about these things I would absolutely tell her to look in the mirror and see what she is reflecting before she criticize or condemn him.
My original and follow up posts are a glimpse into a very important aspect for SO to consider, the largest majority of SOs will say the lying and/hiding is the hardest thing for them to get over.
