My liberal wife thinks all TVs are gay

[ReineD]

Did that make any sense?

It did, except when I apply it to my SO and others like my SO. My SO also had same-sex attraction for some years, while he was in his past relationship. The CDing was just beginning then (with her blessing) but at the time it was mostly a bedroom thing. Needless to say my SO is also monogamous so he didn't act out on it when he was with her. But then years later they broke up (nothing to do with the CDing), and my SO was single for about 10 years, save for several relationships with women that lasted from 4-8 months each. Interestingly, he was not willing to date men like he did women, for the sake of forming a relationship. Anyway, throughout those 10 years he had ample time to experiment with male-sex, and he took advantage of it. It turns out that when he actually was with other males (he experimented more than once just to make sure), it was a complete turn off! My SO is not TS, yet in his fantasy he was a sexually attractive woman. But the reality of same-sex sex shattered the illusion. So now my SO knows that he is not bi even though I'm sure he still has the fantasies, which we all know can be manipulated any way we like. We can all add the details we want, and omit the details we don't want in any fantasy and it doesn't make the fantasy any less intense.

Given the above, it is not a stretch for me to deduce that the members here who do persist in being bi-curious (but only when dressed) without ever acting out on it (even when single), suspect deep-down that the reality of the experience would shatter their fantasy? I would not count these people in the "bi" camp for the purpose of coming up with statistics about how many CDers are hetero vs. not hetero. I would definitely count the people who do have relationships with same-sex and opposite-sex, regardless of what they are wearing, but they would have to do more than "try" it once or twice and then revert back to fantasies.