Somewhere along the lines, my idea of SOCIALLY gender nuetrul got turned into forcing everyone into the same clothes!!!

That not what I meant! Lol. What I mean is that pushing feminine and masculine to the extreme and saying that women are ONLY feminine if they wear skirts is wrong. I would think that the best wouldn't be a militant everyone in grey suits, But everyone accpting of each other and what they where,. Neutral where skirts done equate to femininity by default and pants don't equate to masculinity. Where people are just people regardless of what they wear.

I think that would be utopia. Luca wearing a skirt in public, without trying to pass and no one gives a damn. Sounds Nice to me.

But remember this comes form the perspective of a GG who has never been in a CDers shoes.