So much good stuff here. My own 2cents from my own situation.... communication yes, but don't overdo it. Talks don't have to go on for hours. My wife doesn't mind talking about it, but not for very long, maybe up to a half hour, usually not even that. At least once in a while, show them a time when it could be your time, and you opt not too, just to be with her and no direct mention of dressing or anything TG related. In other words, don't always make them ask you for some time without "it"
My wife feels a sense of relief when I will remind her that I am not asking for or demanding her to like this aspect of me. I think that this can be an added pressure we may not fully understand.
Sometimes, just make light of it without serious discussion. Make fun of it, or yourself, but not in too condescending of a way. I always try to remember to say and in other ways show my appreciation for her acceptance. Appreciation in the fact that this is something a very large majority of women never have to deal with, and many who simply can not or would not accept.
