I haven't posted in a while, But I have been reading this thread, and this got me.
ITS A BASIC HUMAN RIGHT, that each person has in this world is to IDENTIFY THEMSELVES.
You cannot push your labels onto Joanne. If joanne wants to identify in a way that doesn't make sense to you, you have no right to disagree. Its Joanne's right to Identify as Joanne sees fit. Putting another person into a box, only does so for your own comfort.
I never thought I would see the day someone who identifies as LGBT umbrella would use "the growing consensus and psychological community", to force a label onto someone who doesn't want it. That is absurd.