Quote Originally Posted by stefan37 View Post
I have many Trans friends and I have no problem going out with any of them. However to move forward and integrate I need to limit my involvement with the Trans community.
Quote Originally Posted by Kaitlyn Michele View Post
reading some of what you say, i think this quote is very helpfully summing up where you are coming from on all this..

Let us all know
How is Stephanie living her simply living her gender identity saying "you're on your own"....it has NOTHING to do with you...it is not ABOUT you....its about solving her medical issue thru transition... how she got there is her own path...it is not dressing up, blending, flowing...its just a medical procedure to solve a huge problem...its a medical transition..how is this a message to anybody????????

also tell me, how is she getting hers? (I've got mine..).... what exactly is she getting?

here's what she gets...she get her gender identity...that's it...regardless of surgery appearance or anything to do with clothes or femininity, she gets to be her...

that's what all transsexuals get... and whether its ok with you or not, I don't look at the world through the lens of what other people have or don't have..i am cheering for everybody especially with regards to their relationship with their gender.. i hope everybody gets everything they want...(just be careful about what you want)

and what is it that Stephanie has that you want??? why would you want what she has?
Quote Originally Posted by emma5410 View Post
What can you say in answer to that?? Stephanie is out there 24/7. Living her life and changing opinions and perceptions. Facing a major struggle to be herself.
Amazingly, DeeAnne thinks she is not doing enough. Unlike all the CDs who stay in the shadows who DeeAnne never criticises. I know you go out sometimes DeeAnne but just stop for a moment and compare what you do and what Stephanie does. Then have the decency to apologise.
First, this is NOT a comparison and it has NOTHING to do with me. Both of you keep trying to do that, but you can quit because it is just silly.

The passage above by s37 appears to be saying that after she has drawn all of the support and goodwill from the community, then the only way for her to go further is by separating herself from that community. It's hard to interpret it otherwise. To me, it doesn't seem to be the right thing to do. Evidently s37 has figured out some things and her transition is progressing. But, by separating herself from the rest of the community, her advice and counsel will largely be lost to others in that community. Evidently as time goes on, it appears she is spending less and less time interacting with the community.

THAT was the point.

I believe that the saying "None of us are free until we are ALL free." is very descriptive of how things really work. Put another way, we must all move forward together.

DeeAnn