You talk about advocacy and activism as that should be requisite of those transitioning. Yes there are some that for whatever circumstance are either thrust or make the conscious effort to be an activist. I have no desire to be an activist. I will not walk around with a sign around my neck. " Hi I Stephanie, I'm a transsexual ". Trust me I do more to advocate Trans issues by the very fact I am out and about 24/7. The fact remains that if a transitioner wants to integrate as female they need to limit their interactions with the Trans community. I don't say this lightly. I have been actively transitioning for 3 years. Full time the last 2. I have many transsexual friends that I communicate and interact with frequently. There are some that live exclusively in the lbgt community. Interacting with the general public when it's absolutely necessary. There are some that are very open about being Trans and are happy to be. I also know many that wasn't nothing more than to live amongst the general public as female and to be treated as such. We are absolutely treated differently when we are perceived as female and when they figure we are Trans. Once outed being gendered as female becomes a crap shoot. Many times female pronouns are dropped and male pronouns become dominate. You would not know that because you are male and interact as male.
I have no desire to trade one closet for another. I know other Trans individuals that have transitioned and are for the most part assimilated into society as female. They sometimes feel they are in the closet for the fear of being outed. Maybe that will be my path in the future. Maybe not. The best way to assimilate and be accepted is to not talk about Trans issues. The general public for the most part do not want to hear it. Transition or like I said earlier go out and live as female 10/7 and you will know exactly what I am taking about. My transition despite my personal loss of my marriage has been relatively easy compared to many.
And yes I have accomplished many things on my own. That's my personality. Should I have to modify that to suit anybody else. I have tremendous self confidence ( large reason I was able to live full-time for 18 months with male facial features before I could afford facial reconstruction). Money I worked damn hard to save.
