I agree that this is key. Two things I think may help acceptance. One is seeing each other in person. Sometimes that settles thoughts and helps the person see that all is well. The other is making it personal. It is easy to not accept something until it affects someone you know. Very cool Karolyn!
Of course this is no where near all encompassing. It is another tool in our kit so to speak. There are so many factors it remains difficult and we can only stack the odds in our favor to a point.