Asperger Syndrome is a very important consideration when it comes to disclosure to a child. Agree that you need to tread very carefully.
As for your situation, you describe the joy in "dressing up" which tells me you identify as a CD'er which means this is something you do. Sure it might make you happy but I agree that you are behaving like a petulant child if you are not capable of loving your wife the same no matter how you are dressed.
You only disclosed six months ago, how did you function before that point of disclosure?
I recommend that you find some sort of balance in your life. Carve out time when you can do what you do so that it doesn't crush you every other moment of the day when you are unable to do so.
