Reine,
You don't appear to pick up on the way my wife thinks , she makes those sort of comments fairly often, it's almost as if she wants to me to look elsewhere, to be truthful on this one I may well tell my counsellor of my feelings not to change her but to see if I can form a relationship . As I said previously this was moved from Loved Ones where I may have divulged more information about my marriage and my relationship, no doubt some of you are going to come down on me like a ton of bricks for what I've just said but I am at my wits end looking for contentment and happiness.
Sara Jessica,
I entered this session of counselling to try and find where I am on the gender line my counsellor has told me she can help with transition if I need to go that way, if not she is trying to help me come to terms with where I am in my marriage , at the moment I'm struggling to function, I'm so suppressed by my wife's acceptance and understanding, she knows the only way I can move forward is to discuss it with my wife. I need this counselling badly but it's a total waste if I can't discuss and implement the changes I desperately need to make !
Gendermutt
I am looking for validation on the gender scale, I appreciate there are certain points that most wives won't tolerate, not knowing is making it more difficult to persuade my wife what I'm expecting her to accept . I'm looking for some peace of mind and a few years of happiness ! Yes I have lived all those years and survived but I really am mentally falling apart , something drastic is going to happen and soon , my counsellor can see that from the truthful facts I've given her.
