Reine, I'd like to turn this around on you, if you don't mind. My ex told me that having sex with me was like having sex with a woman, which she couldn't stand. Part of this was the obvious... Long hair, shaved body, nails, nighties, but even when I said I'd change all that, she said it wasn't just that. It was the way I was. Other than the obvious, it was like being with a woman.
I have no idea what she was talking about. This is one of those things like you talk about where a person of fluctuating gender just has no idea what it's like to be someone who's not. I had no idea that I did anything fundamentally different than any other male. Looked different, yes. Dressed different, yes. But fundamentally different? I don't get it. Maybe it was just impossible to ignore all the feminine trappings to the point that it got so solidly imprinted in her mind that she couldn't shake it. But, maybe I was/am just inexplicably different.
You're in a relationship with someone who has all the trappings of femininity, but apart from those things, is there a fundamental difference sleeping with a person of fluctuating gender? I was told over and over it's not just the clothes. I never got an answer to what else it might be.
