There is no difference for me. I haven't been promiscuous in my life but I have had several sexual partners (all male) and I can say there is a very wide range in terms of love-making styles. Some men are super sensuous, others are more focused on orgasm, some men have a wide range of behaviors in the bedroom, others not so much, some men are aware of and they practice tantric sex, some men have kinks (i.e. feeling submissive or dominant is sexually exciting for them), others don't frame it that way, etc.Originally Posted by Rhonda Jean
When my SO (or other partners I've had) and I are having sex, it is the person's basic sexuality that shines through and that transcends things like gender for me. I don't ask myself who is the male or the female. lol. I don't know how to explain it other than there are HUGE variances in personalities and preferences among humans and there is nothing more basic than two people pleasuring each other when they are sexually compatible, no matter what this looks like. The only thing that speaks to gender in my view, is the physical construction of the body. Men and women have body parts that fit together in a certain way to produce pleasure but apart from that, love-making styles and preferences vary widely.
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I'll add to this that at its most basic and fundamental level (please people, don't add layers to this that are not there), being hetero for me means being sexually attracted to people who have the male body part that is a yang to the yin of my female body part. This is how I am physically built to experience sexual pleasure and I dare say that (most) males are physically built to experience physical pleasure through the friction of their male body part. And if my male partner should not wish to use or if he wanted to get rid of that body part, then there would be a mismatch between what I need physically and sexually and what my partner needs.
