i'm a member of a lot of different forums on various topics of interest, and never before have i read through an entire thread. color me impressed. there are so many quotable items, but here's what stuck out to me:


Quote Originally Posted by Amy Fakley View Post
Loosen up, yall ... it ain't like we're all that normal of a crowd to start with. Why start drawing arbitrary lines between us?
i don't know any other CDs in my area, and i'm new to the forum, so reading this made me laugh and loosen a little. thank you


Quote Originally Posted by sherri View Post
So many guys are so coarse and insensitive, sometimes I wonder how the species survived.
Quote Originally Posted by Alice Torn View Post
Very few men want to meet, me because of my boundries and restrictions.
these two quotes ring very, very true for me. i will admit to having been curious about the matter, and even joined a dating site as my alter ego to explore these feelings. what i found was a lot of gross behavior that caused me to immediately and permanently remove my account.

of course, it led me to wonder how much of that was a reflection on my behavior "as a man". granted, i've never offered to send graphic photographs before saying hello, and i do try to be polite when i meet a new woman, but some fellas are pretty unbelievable. when i "turn girl", it's a complete turn-off, and as Sherri stated, it makes me wonder how have we survived this long. maybe that's the difference in the brain of a new CD that enjoys intimate moments with women rather than that of a GG - maybe hard-wiring (if there is such a thing) is the real answer.

that's not to say that there isn't a man that will be a little more - what's the word - kind, perhaps? as noted by Alice, few men wanted to meet me based on my own restrictions - i won't mess with certain types of women in my every-day "man" life, why should that be any different for meeting a man as my femme alter ego?

to the OP, i think what matters most is comfort and safety, as stated by so many here. how we define ourselves is going to vary from person to person, so while i personally think your self-identity and question(s) is/are valid, i don't think any of the answers will ultimately persuade or dissuade you from exploring yourself as you see fit. human beings have a tendency to wonder and ask for advice, but end up doing exactly what we want to do, anyway. if you want to go through with having an intimate encounter with a man while you are CDing, and if you think that will make you feel in a positive manner, then that decision is yours. what does any of this make you? only you can answer that. whether you end up defining yourself as gay, straight, bi, or any of the subtle levels in-between, that's your call.

however, i'm pretty new to all of this, too, so take my opinion with a grain of salt. for what it's worth, at this point, i'd just as soon stick to enjoying women, whether i'm "as a man" or if i "turn girl".