I really want to tell my wife ...

[wendy]

I read and re - read everyone's thoughts/posts, plus read and re - read the thread "Tips on SO acceptance", plus any other related posts, and I finally told my wife about my CDing today.

I share this same sentiment with anyone else who has told their wife, I feel now a huge weight and burden has been lifted off my shoulders, and it feels great. I feel now I don't have to hide who I am, and I also feel I can now share my CDing with the woman I love.

I'll be honest, it wasn't easy but I forced myself to do it, and I have no regrets.


This is how it started :

we were both laying in bed chatting away, when there was a few second lull in our conversation, I seized my chance and I said :

"I want to thank you for being so supportive and understanding about my crossdressing in swimsuits."

her : "I don't care what you wear as long as it makes you happy, and it doesn't hurt anyone."
me : "Even if I wear pantyhose/tights ?"
her : "yes, but I don't wear pantyhose/tights."

The conversation keeps going :

her : "Just don't wear any of my stuff, as you will stretch it out. I don't want you to wear my spanx or my pumps because you will stretch them."
me : "Ok, but what if I bought my own stuff ?"
her : "Fine, fine."

Later in the conversation :

her : "I just want you to be honest and open."
me : apologizing as I haven't been honest and open about my CDing.


Near the end of our conversation, she said she if you want to dress like a woman, go ahead. She then goes to her skirt collection and suggest I try them on, to see if they will fit (the skirts have an elastic band, so they are ok). She also has a black wrap style dress with a belt and suggested I try that on too. I told her no, I want to buy my own clothes and wear those.

She also said if you want to buy woman's clothes, she will go with me to the ladies dept and make the purchase for me so people will think it is for her. She won't buy it outright, but offering to make the purchase (me handing the money to her and she goes up to pay for it) is awesome.


I then told her I want to be totally honest, and informed her that I already owned some woman's clothing and I've been storing it downstairs in the basement. She then said if you wear them I'll critic it (with a chuckle). She also said she knew a long time ago, and was wondering why I was bringing it up now.

However, she did have 2 concerns :
1) will I be dressed and going outside ? Answer is no.
2) she doesn't want me to spend too much money on women's clothing, as she knows I've already spent much money on my huge women's swimsuit collection. In other words, her concern is purely monetary.





As I am typing this in, she has gone to take a nap. I told her (before her nap) that I will be dressing up and when she wakes up I want to show her my outfit. She said fine.


My whole experience has been positive, and she did not flip out or become angry or anything. I am so thankful that she is supportive, understanding, and open minded.