Public Restroom

[Rhonda Darling]

I can understand the most popular response will be, without hesitation, to use the ladies room. I just want to offer that even though we feel it is OK, that it is almost a right to use the rest room we want to, we may be diminishing support and acceptance and may threaten women unless we are sensitive and careful. My wife, who is 110% supportive and very open-minded, has frequently articulated her resentment that men feel it is OK to invade the women's rest room.

I, too, have heard from my SO that us using the ladies restroom is disconcerting and some women vehemently object, especially is children are present. The latter fear no doubt arises from the common misconception that we're all perverts and child molesters. I always point out when this discussion comes up that I've been to many many sporting events and concerts where women have walked right into the men's restroom, gone into a stall, done their business, and walked out -- usually under the explanation that the line at the ladies room was too long and they HAD to go. That comment is usually met with a blank stare and a "so what?" response. Here we have slammed head-on into the female prerogative.

My my advice here is, know both the law and the usual police response to complaints about us in your area, have restroom situational awareness, be realistic about whether or not you pass, be careful, don't talk from the stall (your voice - even if it works when people can see you - will likely give you away if you and your femme presentation are out of sight) and most importantly, keep feet pointed in the right direction and together - no man spread in the stall - do your business, wash up!!, and leave.

YMMD (your mileage may differ)

Oh, remember that a momma bear will do anything to protect her cubs -- including claiming imagined facts if the police are called.

Rhonda

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Thanks, a lot of good info here for a newly cd that is yet to make a public outing. I just dont think is as easy as everybody says it is. A lot of places have those single restrooms for either male or female. I dont think I'm passable at all or dont have the confidance yet...I'm glad i joined this forum

If it's a single restroom, regardless of how the sign reads, no problem as there won't be any women or kinds in there with you to complain about you.