Heather, what sort of bathroom bullies are you talking about? Here in California it is the law. You have the right to use the restroom facilities corresponding to how you are presenting. No one bullying no one, just clear words, at least here in California and a few other enlightened States. I would say the bullies, or those trying to bully and scare others are those opposed to these laws. I don't think that anyone here has ever given any proof that a normal transgender person, including CD's under that spectrum umbrella, have ever been convicted of doing something inappropriate in the women's restroom.

The key words maybe for you are "can use". If one does not want to use them, they can use the other one and take their chances there. There are a lot of rules and laws out there that may not please some of us. I personally do not like that someone can burn the US Flag. I don't like it but the law as upheld in the Supreme Court says that you can as part of one's constitutional right of freedom of speech. Therefore, I never complain about it except in discussion such as this, I just live with it.

The vast majority of us here who actually go out into the real world specifically use the women's restroom when we are dressed as women. There is only a small minority that do not. That is their choice. I too get tired of these threads sometimes, but when there is a vocal minority then I believe that our old male habits come back to defend what one of us have said and sometimes even to get in that precious last word causing these type of threads to come back every so often to open up the same old conversation and points of view. When someone asks which one to use, the majority of us will respond as we have done here, and so will those opposed to it. Thus the cycle continues.

I honestly do respect other's rights to do as they please as long as it is legal. However, in this case I personally will use the women's rooms and not just in California. I have responded a second time here because of your calling us "sort of bullies". That didn't and doesn't set well with me. Yes, I would still use the women's restroom if my or anyone else's 7 year old daughter was in there, and I have done so. By not doing so we are giving more power to those that do not like us even existing.

We here in the USA tend to be overly puritanical and afraid to talk about sex and the human body. A lot think all that stuff is very dirty and should be hidden away. We also incorrectly believe that our way is the best and only correct way, which if one reads a lot and travels outside of our wonderful country they would quickly see that we tend to be way overly conservative regarding these topics when compared to other cultures. We need to loosen up and take the shame out of being human.