With certainty of angering most, I agree with Heatherdress.

Like everybody else, I've used the ladies room. I mean, really, what else are you going to do? It's a predicament for me, and although I do it, I'm often uncomfortable. The single occupancy ones are a non-issue. I've used them in male mode when I had to, as I've seen women use the men's. If you REALLY pass, as some of you do, then it's a non-issue. If I can't get in and out without being seen it's an issue for me, and I've been doing this long enough that I should be used to it.

I've been told to not use the ladies room on one occasion. There was a fast food place where I'd stop to get a bite to eat and use the restroom when I was out specifically because it was never crowded. There were windows all around and I could tell who was in there before I ever entered. I would use the ladies room on my way out, and had done so several times, never with anybody else in there. I had been to this place a few nights earlier, but this time when I started to the restroom and employee told me that I wasn't allowed to use the ladies room anymore. She said they'd talked to the manager and the manager told them to tell me I wasn't allowed. Of course, I've never been back. It was uncalled for, as there was nobody else in there.

I was at a gay bar once where there was a sign on the bathroom doors, something to the effect of "If you're a male you must use the men's room". Seems like there was a specific reference to CD's, but I don't remember for sure.

The most fear I have of using the restroom I have is when I'm not completely dressed, but not completely typical male. In those cases I use the men's room. I often wear high heel boots, or I have polished toes with flip flops. I almost always carry a purse. Having my polished toes or heels visible under the stall or my purse slung over my shoulder while standing at the urinal scares the crap out of me.

I've peed in a cup in my car many times to avoid using a public restroom. I always try to avoid them. I try to go before I have to. If I'm somewhere that has a family or gender neutral restroom I'll use it before I really need to to avoid getting in a situation where I have to go in a less desirable situation. I go back home or to my hotel room just to use the restroom instead of staying out for hours on end. I can usually avoid public restrooms altogether. It's kind of a priority to me. I've never used the men's room when dressed, though.

I get the impression that using the ladies room is kind of a bucket list thing for some. Or it's an "I use the ladies' room therefore I am" thing. I definitely shouldn't be. It's a sensitive issue for a lot of women, and we'd be well advised to respect that.