Laila, a good portion of us have run into the situation of a rejecting spouse. First thing you need to do is get 9 more posts in so you can see the majority of the forum. There are other areas where you may find answers for you and your wife.
My wife is in the "not approving" camp as well. I waited years to tell her, big mistake. When the news did come out, she insisted on couples therapy to find answers. The therapist we chose was not up to speed on crossdressing and gave advice from a religous mind set. This may have helped my wife, but teed me off as they did not say up front they held this approach. Result was my wife was told to be ready to move out. Instead she hung in as I got gender therapy from some one who knows the ropes. So don't expect immediate results from counseling.
One thing we've done, an this may work for you and your wife, is Don't ask, don't tell (DADT). I had dresssed 25 years without my wife's knowlege, so I said if I keep Heidi completely from you, could I continue dressing? She has aggreed to this. She is aware of Heidi, but has told me several times, she doesnt want to see any evidence of her. She is expecting to see just her husband when we are together. It's working so far.
