I took some of the advice on here and used it to tell my wife about CDing.
That was your first mistake. Sorry to be so blunt. But for every good outcome, a dozen end badly! Cross dressing and marriage mix about as well as oil and water. And all those who advocate coming out, telling your wife, your girlfriend, your boss, your mailman, your neighbor, won't be there for you when it ends badly, except for a few kind words in the forum. You have two choices now. Give up CDing forever, and live with the stress and the ongoing frustration, and a controlling wife, who will never see you as a man again. Or get a divorce and get on with your life, and the freedom to do as you please, when you please, if you please. You only get one life. There are no back buttons, no do overs. You can either live free, or spend the rest of your life in quiet desperation, always giving in to keep peace in the home.