Laila... first and foremost, I'm sorry that you're wife reacted poorly to the news. All I can offer is that sometimes, people do and can change... it's a matter of communication, trust, and compromise. Compromise being what works for your entire household, not just your wife.
I think Laila's thread has become a bit hijacked. The long and short of it, is that all spouses of TG/CD partners will have varying degrees of tolerance, acceptance and encouragement. My opinion (shared) is that there really isn't a valid method of determining how a spouse may take the news.
I think Reine hits the nail on the head in para. 3 of response 38 above regarding compromise.
I disagree with the research referenced in para. 2, or rather I would caution or add, that just because "wives aren't leaving" doesn't mean there is acceptance of the CDing into the marriage. I think that upon discovery relationships are entering into: DADT situations; ultimatums to never do it again or there will be a divorce, which leads to secret dressing; or the staying together for the kids. I think these are more realistic or likely scenarios than that spouses are "much" more accepting of a crossdressing spouse. While it's not as taboo or misunderstood as it once was and yes, people are more accepting... spouses included, I don't think "most" spouses are "cool" with it.
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