Thankyou Gretchen, yours is a lovely story.
Your hypothesis that the shared interest goes both ways will work some times and not in others. I'd reckon that the female SO has also to appreciate the man in CD. Relationships are beyond complex, there is no formula, just be happy with what you have, which you are, and explain what has worked for you. It might work for others, at least they can add it to their options.
I also feel bad for folks whose reveals have gone down like lead balloons. I can't say for sure, because I don't know, but my hypothesis is that I question whether the SO truly loved the CD partner or the image she had of them. And I could be horribly wrong because I can only speak for myself not for others. Love and acceptance are truly mystical things.
xxx Pamela
