I have violated the known rules with this outfit: http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...fore-and-after without knowing it. I thought I looked good. My wife gave me feedback I didn't like because I like the skirt in question but she commented that it was too short, too young and too reminiscent of a "school-girl" look. That is not what I was going for and it's embarrassing to think I was out like this. Not that I care what strangers think about me, but I that was dressed poorly. I received some additional feedback from a woman I respect and the critique was exactly the same. Along with that feedback came this:
"It's all very subtle and I think that women are especially attuned to the messages that clothes give because, well, we control the message and the desired effect on men. Men, on the other hand, just look at a woman and think either "wow" or "neutral".
Just try to understand that when you dress a certain way, you are giving messages about yourself and this gives an impression of what you want."
While the wear-want-you-want crowd is somewhat vocal, I thought the "message" idea above was new and interesting. What "message" do you want to send? Are you dressed that way?
Food for thought.
