Very simple answer.

YES.

Now that we have that over and done with the real question is how do you tell her, when, where, what do you wish etc. etc. Are you sure you're TS, etc.

You will NEVER know your wife's response until you talk to her. AND it will take WAY more than 1 conversation and possibly years to be able to work out what is best for your family.

How do I know this? I am 43 years old, transitioned, I live in Batemans Bay with my wife of 20 years, we have 3 beautiful children aged 15, 9 and 5 yrs old. We are still together. We are still together because we are happier now than we have ever been. Believe me, if my wife wished to leave, she would.

I will send you a pm with my contact details. We know of at least one other couple locally who are still together as well as another couple with young children who are still together who are in Qld.

Best wishes