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[ReineD]

You are right ! But,to see some of the posts from all of those that don't want to be out but tell like their "girl time" is very important to them,confuses me. Many take huge risks in that they could get caught or they want to get caught..I think being more honest about what is on their mind might have brought different results than some imagine.

Yes, going out as a woman is enticing indeed for a lot of people here and it can be downright compelling. But at the end of it all, if it comes down to a choice between declaring oneself as a woman or preserving the male life, the bulk of the people who login here will choose the preservation of their male lives.

It's like me, really. I have a strong fantasy to buy a house near the Pyrénées (where my ancestors come from) - 200 year old building with thick stone walls and high rough-hewn beamed ceilings, slate floors, large airy bedrooms each with fully remodelled en-suites, fabulous cook's kitchen with a huge stone fireplace in it, on acreage with a pool and a French garden - to use as profitable B&B except a few times per year when I would fly my kids out to ski in the winter or drive to the French Mediterranean in the summer. It's my ideal life!!! Will I ever do it? No. It's beyond the realities of my life. :p

People invariably end up doing what they feel they can and they're fundamentally happy with that. The rest is fun to dream about ... unless a person is TS of course, in which case they have no choice but to transition.