Jennifer, while I agree with the things you write more often then not. What I do not always agree with is your proclamations. I can walk around the Village in NYC and I can guarantee you I will feel no fear at all. But walk into a small town in say Alabama, an entirely different story. You are likely right about it typically being worse in someone's head than what reality is. Or the proclamations that a marriage will always survive CDing if it is done right. Generally they will, but there are just women out there who will turn and run from it regardless of how it is presented to them.
Some people have their own set of circumstances that will create a different atmosphere, and will have more risk for the life they have outside of cding then others do. For some, the closet really might be the best place for them to be.
