I have communicated with all of my ex''s, however on my last wife, I told her first and it was alright. But I did not dress when I had the ranch as it was not very possible at that time. But when we divorced, she told everyone. So, sometimes I think that's why some do not tell their partners right away for fear of that. I never tried to keep it a secret with my ex's, however I did not want it to get out. It did get out and well, my family is not talking to me to this very day. Be very careful who you disclose it to.
