Mikell my comment might be general but its a common thread in closet dressers and those in DADT relationships where the man has to hide what he does.
Would it not be better to get your wants and needs made apparent?
She will vocalize her wants and needs with no hesitation but men seem they don't have the same rights.
When I came out to my ex wife she said why didn't you tell me? Why didn't you voice your needs I would have preferred you did that.
I didn't tell her about being TG because I thought I was weird and it would pass plus I didn't know all that much about it back then either.
We get along great now and she asks about my girl side frequently.
Everyone is different and have different situations I understand that.
