Paula - I am sorry to hear of your sad divorce and subsequent settlement issues with your ex-wife. It is difficult but you can only do what you can do. I had a very difficult and painful divorce from my ex-wife, but it had nothing to do crossdressing. In fact, I had never crossdressed and did not even know I was a crossdresser when married to her. She was mentally ill and abusive, to me and the kids, which is another story. Even though she wanted the divorce to abandon her children, she still was evil and unreasonable during a 3 year divorce process which cost about $75K for each of us. Sad, but I can appreciate how much more difficult it must be to end a long term marriage with the discovery and revelation that you are really a woman, as you had to do. I am glad that you were able to discover your identity and admire the courage to tell your wife and family, and move on to live your life as the person you are. It is too bad for your ex-wife and children because they only experience your loss, and you must have been a good husband and father. I wish you the best and hope for your happiness.