Becky, and Zooey, thank you for the compliments you gave me. Although I am not certain as to what box I am putting anyone in. While "I don't get it" lol, (video) I do get that being TS and transition is not one in the same. Transition is an action. It is a choice, even for those who say transition or die, as death would be the other choice. Personally I myself would opt for life.
I can only say for me, that this TG stuff is confusing as all hell to me. It made me consider transitioning. For me, it seemed like a path that would cause more difficulties then what life is now. As for the TS and not transition.... If I were to go to the TS forum and proclaim that I am TS, I am one of you, I am a woman inside.... BUT.... I am going to continue living as a man because wifey won't stay with me, kids won't talk to me if I do, and all of the other hardships that are likely to fall my way, then I would be called out as a fraud, or that I do not get it and shouldn't be there. (this is just a hypothetical btw) so you guys do seem to need quite a bit of proof by action in order to consider someone TS. Not necessarily a full transition, but definitely more than just saying so. Not that I would blame you, I would too.
There is a general feeling though from those who wander in to see what TS is all about, because there are some of us, a lot of us actually, that are caught in some weird in between world. Not just a dude in a dress. We don't really know exactly where we are going with this, what it all means. We do not identify as cis males, that is for certain. But, it is like you guys are putting up some pretty crazy obstacle course to pass in order to gain entrance, then I guess that does make sense. If you are TS and you want it bad enough, you will find a way to make it through the course..... if you can't, well then you shouldn't be there. I guess I get that. I get that I don't get it lol. I would only say that of the many lost souls, the way you guys make transition sound so daunting, it really can make someone think there is no choice in life that will ever make them happy. It will be misery transitioning or not transitioning. It will be misery just to join the ranks of TS. That is how it appears to those on the outside, wanting to look in because they are a little lost and are looking for a little direction.
