That's why you are not the same, obviously you will never understand.Originally Posted by Teresa
Nothing to do with Zooey being truly hurt that you just completely dismissed the pain she was in to make such a severe change and risk everything she has achieved up till that point.
No it's far easier to just think of her as arrogant and elitist. If anyone ever wonders why we distance ourselves from non-transitioned speak to Teresa.
No wonder the suicide rate is so high, far kinder to be found dead from say depression than watch your family and financial income torn to shreds only for the rest of the 'Community' to dismiss it as 'Priorities' as in selfish.
"Well wifey I'm just the SAME as that terribly selfish TS person except I would never do that to you, my love is more pure, I have my priorities right"!
Thankfully there are the likes of Gendermutt and others here trying hard to understand and I'm grateful for that even if it does sometimes look like we are at loggerheads.
First off GM reread what you wrote, your attitude to CDers that aren't suffering identity issues is derogatory. You probably didn't mean it like that? But you will have offended someone and right there your attitude is arrogant and above those people (which are the vast majority).
'Prancing around and whatever' shows a dismissive attitude.
You want to be taken seriously but in so doing have distanced yourself from another subsect of the community as if they are beneath you. I just wanted to highlight how easily it's done.
It's certainly powerful enough which is why I'm here chatting away and mulling over concepts with you lot. If I didn't think we had connections I wouldn't bother. You don't see me in Panty threads because I don't understand or relate to that way of life.
All I ask is to stop trying to bundle us all together as the same, I'm not adverse to being called Transgender but medically I'm TS and the difference is profound if at times subtle. Perhaps you too are TS but unless you transition you won't quite get that last piece of the puzzle.
That last piece of the puzzle doesn't necessarily make a good picture at the end though.
My one hope here is for those of you struggling with identity or dysphoria not to feel somehow lesser because transition isn't part of your path.
Going back to the tower analogy.
Perhaps it is you in the penthouse and me on the roof, yes I can now see the Sky but it's cold up here and wet. I maybe one step higher but where you are might be the best place to be. Equally two levels below is someone that hates heights they're also happy with where they are as they feel safer with far more manageable costs than you penthouse lot!
There is no better or worse than, there is only difference
At least to me.
Dee-Anne
Unfortunately you're a bit of a minority in what you do, the vast majority of the Trans community are not visible. You are like the tip of the iceberg with the masses in the closet and while they remain hidden your idea doesn't really work...yet.
I totally get what you are saying about rights etc and I'm guilty of that. But I'm just not that person I don't want to be dual anything or trans at all, I now live my life as a very plain nothing special woman and that feels natural to me and it's what I have fought hard to be.
I am turning my back and selling out on the Trans community I know that, but doing what you and PaulaQ do, I can't do that it's just not in me and I certainly haven't got the confidence to stand up and talk on anyone's behalf.
Sometimes you make false assumptions that rub me up the wrong way, but I do respect your experience and admire what you are trying to achieve.
